Pity not required

Growing up I've had pity for those who are isolated, marginalize or 'otherized.' This may comfort a deep disdain I have - I hate to see people feel alone. I personally do not like the feeling and as a disciple of Jesus this disdain is even greater, because with the Holy Spirit we are never alone.

Over the years being with my wife has shown me that it's okay to have this feeling but to be careful with how I extend pity.

There is a difference.

For example if a child is disciplined for their actions and placed in timeout, they are essentially 'alone' for a bit. As adults we may not dwell on that for long because we know timeout doesn't last that long and they will be back to their normal cheerful self.

If take that same approach for an adult who is suffering from the consequences of their actions, I've learned that it's okay to not extend pity.

For one, it's their own action or inaction that brought forth the consequence. I should not extent pity, even if they were ignorant. Viewing this type of loneliness as an opportunity for the individual to learn instead of being punished gives me comfort.

Another reason to not extend pity is to take a stance for good against what is not good. When extending pity, I am pardoning the individual and making excuses for their action/inaction instead of addressing the core issue and calling the person up to better actions.

I'm learning and growing. Using this new found principle will help me in other areas of life also.